Doting on your mistress is important to keep her happy and secure in the relationship that you have with her, but it isn’t as easy as it would be with a single woman. You have to worry about whether or not her husband will notice things you might have bought her or catch on to the fact that somebody else has been paying more attention to his wife than he has. It may be tempting to avoid it all together just so she doesn’t risk getting caught, but you still need to spoil your mistress so she knows you care and are interested in her. Knowing how to spoil your mistress without alerting her husband to the fact that somebody else is spending time with her will allow you to make the most out of your affairs for sure.
Keep the Gifts Simple
“She would love the simplicity and your thoughts behind the gift”
It’s important not to give your mistress hugely extravagant and expensive gifts. You may be tempted to, especially if she is a high-class woman, but you should try to avoid it at all costs. If you give her expensive gifts, her husband is going to start questioning her quickly. Some things she may be able to hide from his notice, especially if he is inattentive, but if you’re buying her extravagant gifts then it is really just a matter of time until you get her caught by her husband. Keep things simple and buy her gifts that she can easily explain away or hide from him entirely and you will be in a much better place discretion wise.
Never Leaving Evidence on Her Person
“Her husband may get suspicious”
It’s important that your gifts stay with you and not with her, or that you give her gifts that she doesn’t have to wear. If you buy her perfume or jewelry or clothing, her husband is going to notice at some point. He’s going to want to know where it came from, and she will be hard pressed to come up with a believable answer to his questions. If you buy her lingerie or jewelry or perfume, make sure she only wears it when she is with you so that her husband never gets the opportunity to see it to begin with. You want to make sure there’s no physical evidence that something odd is going on, even if you are tempted to buy her all sorts of jewelry.
Treating Her to a Day Out
This is one of the easiest ways to spoil her without getting her caught by her husband. Instead of buying her extravagant lingerie, jewelry, and perfumes, treat her to a special day out instead. You could take her to a spa day or a massage so she still gets pampered, and then spend the rest of the day doing what she likes. If she can convince her husband she’s going out with friends, you may still be able to get some shopping in there if she really wants to. It will definitely go over well without being too obvious for her husband.