“Keep her suspicions at bay”
If you are having an affair, you can sometimes feel like you’re on a hair trigger and any time your wife raises any suspicion at all, you may feel like she already knows that you’re cheating. This can make things nerve-wracking and it can become difficult for you to handle the affair. However, sometimes your wife might not actually be suspicious. She may just be feeling neglected and she may be lashing out and raising suspicions to make you realize she’s not getting enough attention from you. Knowing when your wife is raising actual suspicions and when she is just feeling neglected will help you know how to react whenever she brings it up and you don’t know what to do.
She Throws It into the Conversation out of Nowhere
“She will try to manipulate and steer the conversation”
If your wife just starts flinging accusations out of nowhere, especially during an argument, chances are that she might just be trying to hurt you. If it is something she only brings up in the heat of an argument and without going into detail, she may just be trying to find something to explain your possible recent distance in the relationship. This is something that isn’t terribly uncommon, so you should never break into a cold sweat or make things too obvious. She is probably just throwing anything out there to see if anything sticks, so don’t take this as the jig being up. Chances are she doesn’t even believe it herself, so there is probably nothing to really worry about. Try to soothe her and reassure her if you can without mentioning the cheating accusation at all. She doesn’t need the encouragement.
She Has Actual Suspicions, Not Just Guesses
If she brings up a list of reasons why she thinks you are cheating instead of just throwing an accusation out there blindly, then you might actually be in trouble. If she shows you that she has actual suspicions and a list of reasons why she has those suspicions, she might actually be serious about it. This can be a lot more difficult to deal with, since she already has suspicions and ideas in her head. She may not want to believe it yet, however, so this is basically your chance to start sucking up and trying to make your affair less obvious. It may be your last chance to do so, so make sure to do it well.
She Brings It up More Than Once
If your wife only brings up the idea of you cheating once, especially during an argument, then there probably isn’t much to worry about. This means she wasn’t really taking it too seriously and probably isn’t thinking about it that often. However, if it is something that she commonly brings up during arguments or in general, this means she takes it more seriously, at least often enough for it to be on her mind. This is something you need to worry about and try to reassure her about before it turns into a full-blown suspicion that you need to seriously combat.