So you’ve been sleeping with a married woman. High fives all around, because sex without any relationship crap is awesome, it’s not going to last forever, obviously. She’s married and you’re not looking to get seriously involved. When it’s time to move on, things might not go as well as you’d hoped. If you’re bailing and she’s developed some kind of emotional attachment to you, things can get messy. You’ll want to cut ties in a way that doesn’t lead to some kind of screwed up disaster.
Tell Her You’re Worried about Getting Caught
This excuse doesn’t really leave room for an argument. If she’s cheating on her husband with, you she isn’t going to want to get caught either. Make it sound as convincing as you can. Tell her you know how much her family means to her and you don’t want to be the reason it’s destroyed. Convince her that the chances of her husband finding out are high. In the end, her instinct for self-preservation should kick into gear and she’ll agree with you that it’s best to call it quits.
Tell Her There’s Someone Else
You can always tell her you’ve been seeing someone else. She might get mad, but being as she’s married, she really has no right to. Explain that you’re in love with this other woman and that you’d like it to become serious. Yes, you’re going to sound like an asshole with this kind of excuse, but it will probably work. She’ll be so pissed at you that she probably won’t want to see you again, which is pretty much exactly the point.
Tell Her You’re Married
If there’s more than one marriage in jeopardy, she’ll probably see the wisdom in calling it off. Tell her you’re married. She might question why you never told her that before, to which you can invent any number of excuses. Explain that your marriage was troubled but now you want to try to save it. Either she’ll understand or she won’t. Unless she’s evil and vindictive, however, she’ll probably back off and leave you to it.
Phase Her Out Slowly
One of the safest ways to cut all ties is to slowly phase her out. Stop calling her all the time for booty calls. Stop returning her calls. Make yourself more and more unavailable. When you do talk, sound distant and disinterested. When she asks, just tell her you’ve got a lot going on in your life. This will hurt her less than you suddenly telling her you’re not into her anymore and will create less of a mess emotionally.
If you want the relationship to be over fast, just vanish. Don’t respond to her at all when she calls / texts / emails. If she comes over to your place to see you, don’t answer the phone. She can’t complain to anyone about it because she’s already married. She’ll have to deal with it. Unless you’re comfortable being labelled a douchebag, this might not be the best tactic for you. If you don’t care, go for it. Just remember you’ve made an enemy for life if you do.